Today I found an article detailing (and I mean detailing) the planned murder of Sadie Hartley.
Many of my previous articles are about humans who harm other humans – and might be described more as a passion, or emotional activity. For example, it is unlikely that the previous article the group of men planned to throw acid on Madhu Kumari. It is possible that the group of men planned to throw acid on any woman that refused their advances – which involves a small amount of planning.
In this case – clear first degree murder – Sarah Williams and Katrina Walsh plotted spent 17 months (!) planning to kill Sadie Hartley.
Sarah Williams (age 35) felt wronged by Sadie Hartley (age 60) and that Sadie has stolen her boyfriend Ian Johnson. In an odd twist, Sadie is nearly twice as old as Sarah Williams and to me, as a male with a specific set of tastes suspect that Sarah was one really crazy person for Ian to choose to be with a woman much older than Sarah’s 35 years old.
Clearly, while Sarah felt harmed – if we were to create a scale of criminal harm and put numbers on it – there was zero harm done to Sarah. Sarah’s accomplice was completely uninvolved with Sarah or Ian – and also was not harmed in any legal or criminal way.
Losing someone you love is difficult. Death is horrible, disease is terrible, but there is something worse when the person you love chooses to leave you. It isn’t a circumstance that pushed you apart, job, a disease, they looked at you and decided you were not worth the effort.
Perceived harm in this case can be huge – larger than the loss when you lose your love to death. Sarah, as indicated in the article, blamed Sadie for the loss of her love. She at least loved Ian enough not to blame him directly for leaving.
I know how it feels to love someone that doesn’t return the feeling. If you truly love them then you would wish them well, think of them always, and if ever called do anything for them. I know this is how I feel about my unrequited love. That’s the way I feel about my love. That is always how I will feel about her.
Yes, it hurts. Being in pain is a part of the human condition. It is so much a part of the human condition that to not be in some kind of pain makes it hard to understand if you are alive or dead. We don’t always get what we want – no matter how much we want it.
Love is a more important issue than harm points. After all, many times love turns to harm of one or both parties to love. Not physical harm, but emotional pain and loss.
So, perhaps some more rules are in order. We can try them out – think them in our minds, figure out if the words are wrong or right or if the thoughts themselves are correct.
When someone you love doesn’t love you:
- The most valuable feeling in the world is to be freely chosen by the one you love. To be chosen by them over and over again. If they don’t choose you – you cannot force them.
- Harm units performed on the person you love that doesn’t love you will never get you #1. Or if they chose you after harming them – they are choosing you out of fear. Being with you because they fear you will never be the same as someone being with you because they love you. Someone that fears you will never love you – and won’t be the person you love while they are with you out of fear.
- Harming people that your unrequited love loves only harms your unrequited love. Harming your unrequited love is #2 on the list. Just don’t do it.
- Killing your unrequited love doesn’t make them love you. It just makes them dead. If all you wanted was for that person to be happy and you love them – making your unrequited love dead isn’t going to make them happy. It isn’t going to make them anything except no longer a separate consciousness from the universe.
The universe is a funny place. Not always a funny ha ha place, but funny, you know. If you try to force a person to love you, hurt them to make them love you, hurt someone they love for them to love you or kill them (obviously) you’ll never met up with them again in 10 years or 15 years and end up falling in love, or end up being their best friend or end up being that person that is there for them when they need someone.
Clearly Sarah was not taught any of this. Her love for Ian was a selfish love, only love when things were going right and now that they are wrong – it became a case of harming your love’s love in order to get that love back again – and as stated above that isn’t really going to work.
Yet, over and over again we find that parents, teachers, or mentors do not teach unselfish love to their children or students. The first time I was looking for today’s Inhuman Humans I found this article, but I threw it out because it was for yesterday.
Not one, but two cases in one article of murder-suicide. Men, killing the women that they supposedly love and then killing themselves. Completely off the list of things not to do for your love above.
I still don’t really understand male humans even though I am most certainly am a male human. If I would rather die than see harm come to the one I love, it doesn’t matter to me if she loves me in return. I would want the person I love to be happy – and death (not sadness) is the opposite of happiness because in death there is no hope for being happy again (unless you believe in fairy tales of afterlives) once you or the one you love is dead. When you are sad or even depressed there is always a chance (no matter how slim) that you can be happy in the future.
I’ll have to discuss and work on the concept of harm points in later articles, this article is already too long.